reverse gap

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Life is not fair. It doesn't offer everyone the same chances. Socioeconomic conditions, prejudices, barriers - they do impact people's lives. Some seems to be better connected or talented than everyone else. Some have to overcome more obstacles due to societal inequalities. However, I believe that these factors don't define our journey entirely.

I've found that thinking about life in terms of haves and have-nots only fuels self-doubt and self-resentment. It's easy to believe that because someone else appears to be more fortunate, they must have it better. That they have something I am missing. Everyone has their struggles and challenges. At the same time, story of every and each of us is truly unique.

To help me find peace, focus and to ground myself in appreciation for who I am, I use the technique of reverse gap. It's a powerful tool that, instead of measuring the distance from where I am now to where I want to be, measures how far I've come. It ensures I don't forget to celebrate my progress and appreciate my growth.

I take a moment to reflect on my journey. Think back – two years, five years, even ten. How was I back then? What kind of person I was? What challenges did I face and conquer? This reflection is far more rewarding than comparing my current self to my future aspirations. It shifts focus from hazy wants to tangible growth.

The best part? Understanding that it's not about me against other people, or the world. It's me now, versus me from the past. The old me didn't know what I know now. I was learning something back then, which I know now. I was working hard to reach a goal and now, I have reached it. This way of thinking helps me feel grateful for what I have. It helps me remember all the hard work and growth it took to get here. Even if I didn't always win, I at least grew wiser and more experienced.

So, a quick note to myself: when I find myself in the "harder, better, faster, stronger" loop, I want to look back and celebrate my progress. After all, life is a journey, not a race. It's important to appreciate the present, the distance covered, and the lessons learned. Despite what we face, the growth is real, and it's ours.